Today’s posting is going to be bit of a rant!
I am not a fashionable person, I never have been. I did try once; there was a time at school when all the girls were wearing really pretty and girly body warmers. I told my dad I wanted one so he took me to Millets and got me this awful one that hikers would use. Not what I wanted. Apart from that one time, I have never never even ventured to join the world of fashionable women. Why? Because at my size the fashions are either a) hard to come by in a plus size shop or b) would not suit me due to size. Option B doesn’t bother me but I have always been frustrated by option A.
As a plus size, I don’t feel that my choice of clothing should be so limited. I have great boobs. They’re large and they are most definitely in charge. Can I find a low cut top? No. Why? Because there seems to be this assumption that as a larger woman I wish to hide my figure under a shapeless mound of cloth. I’m not saying what I want is impossible to buy, but if I go into Evans or Yours (dedicated plus size retailers), I will be confronted by high neck tops that would flatter the Michelin man but not much else.
Of course, there are the options of high street stores. Obviously I’m not referring to the ones where if you so much as walk your plus size frame past the door the staff will bar it just in case you try to come in! I mean the other ones… The ones where the plus size section has been put in a small corner, out the way. I hate these stores. You walk past racks and racks of clothing to get to the 3 racks of shapeless sacks and elasticated jeans that await you at the other end. Joy.
Now we come to Jamelia. For those of you who have no idea who she is, Jamelia is a British singer who sang a couple of songs. She currently presents a show called “Loose Women”, it’s essentially a group chat show.
A couple of days ago, Jamelia became the spokesperson for a campaign about self esteem – the message that all women are beautiful. Awwww. Then she said this.
“I think everyone should have access to lovely clothes, BUT I do not think it’s right to facilitate people living an unhealthy lifestyle.
“I don’t believe stores should stock clothes below or above a certain weight. They should be made to feel uncomfortable when they go in and can’t find a size.”
Nice. So apparently, if you’re under a size 8 or above a size 18, you should be made to feel uncomfortable. It would seem that Jamelia is a terrible spokesperson; on one hand telling me I’m beautiful and on the other that I deserve to feel uncomfortable. Who is she to judge me? Who is she to judge anyone? Is she God? I don’t think so. She is essentially just a person, a person like me and yet she feels that she has the right to tell me how I should be made to feel. Luckily for me, I don’t give a crap what she says; some people might though. Who is she to make them feel bad? Her comments honestly and truly pi**ed me off!! The people she wants to make feel uncomfortable are probably those most in need of self-esteem, those with eating disorders no matter how big or how small. She trashed them. She wants them to feel ashamed.
Well I have a message for Jamelia.
Much love for you guys (no love for Jamelia!),